The Collaborative Curriculum
Welcome to The Collaborative Curriculum, where Body Banter groups across different campuses share the details of their discussions!
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What are Banter-Brainstorms?
Banter-Brainstorms follow the TRI tree structure, where we target a topic, relate it back to our lives and implement our newly gained insights in actionable steps to promote body positivity in our lives.
NOVEMBER 3, 2018
“Does using “beautiful” as a compliment emphasize external features as more definitive of self-worthiness?”
How have we encountered this question in our lives?
Redefining “beautiful”: Using the word “beautiful” in different ways can actually redefine its definition, rather than perpetuate appearance based connotations. For example, if we use the word beautiful to describe someone’s personality, it can reshape our use of the word!
Connecting physical traits to personality/individual talents: Even though excessive attention paid to external traits can be problematic, it is undeniable that our physical appearances still contribute significantly to our self-concept and self perceptions. We don’t need to completely avoid using appearance-based compliments, but we can work on making these compliments more holistic and balanced, by linking appearance-based observations with personality traits or individual abilities.
For example, “Your makeup looks great - you are so talented!” or “I love your jeans - you have such good taste!”
After today’s discussion, what are our intentions/goals for the coming week?
For today’s implement portion, we used “cues for conscious change” - writing down our intentions on flashcards so that we could visualize our thoughts.
Showing appreciation for our loved ones, in both their physical and emotional presence. Thank them for existing, as well as for actively being there for you.
Listen deeply to those around us - see them for their personality/soul, rather than as a conglomeration of physical features!
Be kind and forgiving to ourselves, in all aspects of your lives, be it physical, mental, or emotional.
Actively use the word “beautiful” in different contexts - show others that they can be worthy and appreciated in more than just the physical sense.
Sim’s story sharing session:
Using past struggles to fuel advocacy
We had our first speaker presentation this evening!
During today’s discussion, our very own Simran spoke about her personal struggles with an eating disorder, and how her experiences fueled her current passions for mental health and eating disorder advocacy. After her inspiring story sharing, she opened up the discussion to the club with two key questions - deets are summarized below!
Is struggling a necessary step on the path towards realizing our full potentials?
We never intentionally choose our struggles, but we can interpret them in positive ways
For Sim, her struggles helped provide her with a purpose in life - to become an adolescent psychiatrist!
For many of us who have struggled with an eating disorder, these life experiences were certainly not pleasant, but they did serve as a turning point in life that helped us appreciate the little things, and motivate us to pursue our best life.
One of our members spoke about how difficult her eating disorder was for her to experience, as well as for her close family and friends, and how this was the one thing that she wished she could reverse (the suffering of close others). However, we then spoke about how these experiences stimulated discussion of mental health issues with her close others, and how they even inspired her family and friends to seek help for mental health issues that they were previously reluctant to speak about, or didn’t even know that they had!
How can speaking up and being vulnerable about our experiences benefit others?
Helps show others who may be struggling that they are not alone!
There is so much fear and shame associated with mental health struggling, which can prevent help-seeking behaviors. By speaking up about our own struggles boldly and unabashedly can inspire others to pursue their best lives! :)
Finally, Sim shared how she keeps herself accountable in recovery through her body positivity blog, numbersdontdefineus.com. On her blog, she channels her insights, opinions and frustrations into photographic works, blog posts and artwork. Sim is also a national ambassador for Project Heal, the largest nonprofit in the US that provides recovery support for eating disorder sufferers.
In short, she’s a pretty inspiring lady! We were honored to listen to your story and are so grateful to have you as part of the Body Banter community! :) <3
“How has your relationship with your body evolved throughout your life and where do you hope it’ll go next?”
Target: What does it mean to “have a relationship” with our bodies?
There is a difference between internal and external body image: we can be completely comfortable with taking care of our health (e.g. Taking vitamins) but still have bad body image.
What is the line between acceptance and avoidance? Acceptance involves action, in a compassionate way. For instance, forgiving your body when it’s tired, but still focusing on eating well and exercising. On the other hand, “accepting” your body when it is unhealthy and/or feeling subjectively bad is actually avoiding doing something about the situation.
Relate: What has shaped your body image throughout your life?
Parents’ behaviors, comments and judgments at a young age are strong shapers of how we view and evaluate our bodies.
The way that our peers look and what they do (e.g. Participate in many sports) can also strongly affect our body image.
Body image insecurities aren’t just about weight - for example, standards of femininity often prescribe physical traits such as bigger boobs, smooth skin etc, and learning that we are expected to be this way (especially during adolescence) can be very harmful for body image.
Implement: How can we act on what we discussed today?
Try to find ways that we can maintain a healthy body, while working within our mental boundaries. For some of us, it might be more comfortable to know what it is in our food and about how much we are eating, which can become an unhealthy obsession. Without proper guidance, this might mean that we restrict or binge, because we feel that our lives are out of control once our food habits become unpredictable. Seeing a nutritionist and establishing a structured eating plan can help us feel more comfortable mentally, while also taking care of our physical health.
Reflect on our motivations before we exercise. For some of us, this means setting an intention for our exercise session, and making sure that we are not stepping into unhealthy mental territory (e.g. Forcing ourselves to exercise for solely image-related purposes, even when our body is exhausted).
Finding different motivations for exercising. For some of us, “health” can be a very intangible concept. Using other motivators, such as “feeling better” subjectively, or keeping in mind that exercise is beneficial for brain health, can be helpful.
Give ourselves credit. For those of us who recognize that we are individuals who need to “justify our rest time” by working equally as hard, keeping a diary of everything that we’ve done in a day and acknowledging our effort is important. (Reminder: we never have to “justify rest”, but it is better to find a way that works for your mind to allow you to actually rest, than to never address this issue!)